Deeper Work is a Life-times work

At the weekend I had to stop, sit on a rock and call myself out on a few things.

Because my head was doing some inner-berating that was physically sapping the energy I needed for the climb ahead. Seizing joy from the moments too.

With every step a new rageful resistance of thoughts scrolled through my mind. Occasionally disrupted by wild ponies or a cool plant.

In this moment on the rock, flies swarming round my face, attracted to my hot-hot head.(Adding more frustration to the situation.)

I had to have words with myself.

This wasn't about a gentle 'there-there' reframe.

Nor the extreme of a violent retaliation back at myself.

This was a compassioned moment, held with the courage in gut and heart, to be with myself and choose to change it.

These old patterns of inner nagging are totally outdated and after (much continued work) they seem to only frequent me these days on a hillside.

Turbulent, tussling tittering of self-critique. 

(If you caught my blog on Mountain Doom in my newsletter I've shared more on this before) 

I realised as a fly-swarmed-banshee of self-wrath on that rock.

This pattern has to cease. It's purpose has long been understood; replaced by other kinder ways of being and doing for myself.

There is no hillside party for the inner-naggers.

I knew it called for deeper work.

Just by claiming it alone for myself, the voices & taunts quickly subdued themselves to muffled squeaks.

I chose to take things seriously, stake in the ground style. To exclaim inner words of wisdom to myself. Because who I was being, wasn't serving who I am now.

When the chatter tried to turn up again. I paused, carefully repeating kind, clear and courageous words to myself.

At the top of the hill. I walked with ease, the highest point became the easiest steps.

Toxic well-being will try to falsify your humaness. Make you believe that 'with x steps' you'll be 'fixed' make bold claims like 'healed' or say you'll NEVER be a certain way again

Of course when that doesn't happen. You are the one that feels like the failure. Or angry because the guru let you down.

Choose to be your own Explorer (with help where needed of course)

Learning to be curators of the tools and resources that work for us.

A little bit of that, sometimes needing this. Sometimes seeking new resources.

Remembering that our body has capacity to make all sorts of funky concoctions. Sometimes needed, other times because its the only thing we think we know!

In the woods we take time realising that we are ever changing.

That YES while you may indeed stop or start things that couldn't be done before.

You will understand that this work (on ourselves) is ever evolving.

By learning (in coaching) to know and be yourself, you'll have a wonderful resource that was always within you, but easily lost.

The trust to know you'll find your way. The gut to choose the deeper work for yourself. The heart to help yourself let go, even if that's time and time again!

Start your work towards deeper self discovery and confidence.

Your true Nature is so often discovered and explored in the woods.

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