Life and career coaching for the, overwhelmed [or underwhelmed] man. Outdoors in the wild
Take time for yourself, grow your confidence, know your purpose and learn coping strategies to stress less and embrace life.​
Helping you, do and be great things in North and West Yorkshire and beyond
You want things to change and be something more (or less) than what you are right now
you already are A great person and coaching will help you realise this- finding balance and belief along the way
A few guys, once said to me, how one of the reasons he'd booked in a discovery call together, was because of this page. Because whilst a lot of the issues -people come to me for coaching with - are the same no matter then gender. The way we work together and the type of men I work with is something I want to share clearly.
You might feel like your holding a lot or at least feel that way, leading , a family role model, or a man with too many responsibilities, a lot is expected of you, and a lot of that comes from your own expectations of yourself, as well as the echo's of 'what a man should be' that still hold some bearings in society, the workplace or even your role within your family.
Yet whilst you recognise your experience as a man is different to the women you know. You also know that you don't want to perpetuate or be bound by male stereotypes. And part of that, is wanting to better understand yourself. The tricky feelings, thoughts or responses you are experiencing right now to a life or work situation.
You truly want to be the 'best version' of yourself, or make the most of your life. But at the moment, with all that's going on. It feels like you are failing at that.
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You’ve got this idea you need to be someone else. In order to fit in, or feel differently. It feels over-whelming where to even start. Or your frustrated because all the self-help books, podcasts and research so far just hasn't made enough sense to make a difference. A feeling of doom, that something will go wrong - because of you.
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The good news is that, yes whilst coaching together might lead to change. Our work together is normally about leaning into who you are and finding the strengths within you to help you resolve challenges, grow resilience and redirect those parts of life that feel off-piste or stuck.
​ Unlike counselling and talk therapies, coaching isn't just about talking. It's about growth, insight and making things happen through intentional, realistic goal setting and behaviour change.
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Because the challenges you face likely make you feel out of control, or frustrated, guilty, worried or embarrassed. Coaching helps you find new ways to handle tough situations. Which helps you make more space for being the person you want to show up as in life.
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Over the year's my 1.1 clients has been typically 60-70% men. They share how they appreciate the practical element of coaching, whilst also finding it therapeutic when it needs to be. They like my pragmatic, yet patient approach and the fact I don't judge them, even with the things you think might sound weird to say. They've loved coming away from sessions with new awareness, that can be applied easily to a range of life and work situations. That coaching with me, offers a space for silliness and sweariness when we need it, but our focus is on helping you get the outcomes you want. And above all, those men I work with, love the option to be outdoors in the woods, no more stuffy offices or clinic rooms. Each session an adventure of its own, round the fire. Wandering the trees, or on a walk and talk session where movement aids momentum, change and problem solving mindsets.
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There's no need to feel alone or stuck with your situation any more.
Whether you found yourself here of your own research, or had this dangled under your nose by a caring loved-one or friend.
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The first next step from here is to book in a coaching discovery call together (these happen on Zoom or via telephone) a 20 minute conversation to ensure its a great idea to work together and that you're ready for a coaching in nature approach with me.
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Book that conversation here
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You might also like to check out the coaching sub pages on Confidence, Career Coaching, Anxiety, Stress and Overwhelm or Grief, Loss and Bereavement
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Nature will help you relax even without a drawn-out relaxation technique
Thanks to Attention Restoration Theory, [a fancy term for what happens to your mind on/in Nature) you don’t even have to go through a clunky relaxation technique that feels unnatural to you (but we still do if you need one!).
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This is coaching, not talk therapy or a mindfulness sessions. But it can be therapeutic and an open mindset is all part of our session experience.
As your guide, relaxing in nature, noticing the trees and the wildlife, and giving yourself the space to breathe, your cortisol (stress hormone) falls and studies have shown this can happen in as little as two minutes. Helping you access parts of your brain for problem solving, creativity and innovation - which helps supercharge the focus in our sessions.
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You’ve always found it easier to talk to women, but most coaches for men are men
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You've only got to skim through most male coaches on some of the directories and you'll find quite a few are those intense personalities who want to help you with fame, fortune and ego, or use you to achieve if for themselves. That's not all men of course, and it's certainly not you!
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That's not what you’re seeking. Your seeking deeper, meaningful stuff. A space to be real and get the most out of a session, without having to confirm to some other ideal of manhood.
There are also a lot of female coaches who will only work with women, but that's not me. In fact for many years I've been working with more men than women, but the men I work with have deeper respect for equality. They care about the nature, social issues, respect and kindness for one another and that's why we get on.
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After years of helping men like you with these issues and goals, I realised there was something really important about my coaching approach. Being a sassy-yet-compassionate female who values equity, offers you that open and neutral space to talk about navigating yourself and your masculinity in life and work. Alongside some epic female friends, I still have a close bond with the group of guys I went to school with, when I was a leader I managed a lot of male employees too and whilst its hard to really know what clicks for each of us. I love to help men remodel the ideals of masculinity in which you may have been told to toughen up or shut down feelings. In which you might have had to deal with tricky things in life, and yet never really had the space to acknowledge how those life stories contribute to some of your challenges today. Helping you learn some stuff about mind & body, it probably would have been really handy for us to be taught when we were young! I'll offer the balance of kind openness and sensitivity with direct honesty and proactive change techniques to help you explore, challenge and grow as a person. And yes, I can get sweary, but only when it matters to help with change.
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I am not here to 'fix you' or give you the answers, mother you, deal with sexual kinks, or just talk about your problems. So if you're looking for any of that that this is not the space.
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I help people find the resources they need to live a happy, healthy and hopeful life. Coaching for career or life choices or change, help with emotional regulation and mental health. Become a better communicator or feel more confident. So you gain more time and energy for the things that matter, including yourself.
Coaching helps you with personal accountability, resilience and growth.
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Coaching together:
The Next first step
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We’ll have a discovery call to see if coaching together would work well. If we're not a great fit, I'll make some signposting suggestions.
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To start our coaching together, you'll receive the necessary links & registration resources you need to get booked in and help you choose the right package for you/needs. (You can have a peak at packages here)
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Our first session will help we can create a clear plan of action and create a space where you can show up and feel understood in ways you might not expect from a first session. It doesn’t have to start off uncomfortable or awkward. Its not just talking, we'll get stuck in and create change from the beginning
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Future sessions offer time to create real change and keep momentum, but with space in between each session to absorb the changes happening and so you can fit the session in around other commitments.
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Each session and client is different, some times we will sit and explore in the woods. Other times we will roam through the trees. You might opt for a walk and talk or session online as well.
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I don't force you to do a structured programme where you have to fit yourself to a particular order. We listen deeply and respond to the focus and needs that are showing up in the here and now, as your coaching I help you hold your bigger picture goals in sight as we reflect and review.
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At the end of our time together there is space to review and action next steps. Time to celebrate how far you have come from the first session, reflecting on everything you’ve already achieved. And cultivating exciting ( or calm) next steps.
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Joe
"I ditched a lot of unhelpful and toxic beliefs about myself and work, then recognised how much that held me back."
Ciaran
"No BS, fun, lightness and being nudged when I needed to go a bit deeper. I arrived overwhelmed with what needed to be done but left with full permission to ease the pressure and treat it [my goal] as a fun experience for me as... JK really helped me put the joy back into my work rather than it feeling like something I HAD to do.
PHIL
I gained clarity and perspective on my current professional situation using my values to guide/check alignment with those values, and most importantly, feel greater agency over my situation and future plans...Thank you JK for providing highly skillful coaching to help me make real, tangible progress.
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What you leave with or without will be unique to you:
Everyone I work with is different, but through my years of working with men like you as individuals, leaders and team members, you’ll get:
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Protected time to focus on yourself and your goal(s), free of judgement.
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Time away from the confines of your office or home and permission to switch off from the noise of the modern world.
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Strategies to manage and regulate your emotions. (E.G Stress/Anxiety/Depression/Doubt/Frustration/Guilt)
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A wild natural setting to inspire your thinking and help you feel connected.
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A plan and clear actions toward your aims (life and/or career)
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Space to make sense of your internal and external world.
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Improved communication skills (inside and out) - personal & work relationships.
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Confidence and ease within yourself
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Clarity on your purpose and focus in life
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A space to acknowledge personal development & growth
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Create habits for health, feeling-good and a direction.
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A simplified and more meaningful life to experience adventures, experiences and opportunities that boost quality of life.
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Book a discovery call ​
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Meet JK your coach and facilitator
It won't take long for you to realise that I LOVE NATURE. Even outside of work, I’m usually doing something connected to nature or off on an outdoor adventure. It’s been something that has enhanced my own health and happiness and I love to share this approach with clients, too.
Its not all woo-woo stuff here. Instead, I 'geek out' on neuroscience and how our brain works, sharing this knowledge with you in a real-life, accessible way. I’m a therapeutic coach and advanced IEMT practitioner – meaning, if you have identified a situation you want to change that’s impacting your mental health, or you’ve experienced trauma or traumatic loss, there’s a coaching space for you here.
I help you to discover more about yourself and the world. We’ll create choices and opportunities that will help you feel confident, clear on where you are heading and with a plan of how to get there.
If you like an open, relaxed, yet direct coaching style, and you’re ready to change with Nature as your backdrop, say hello. Or, if you’re a bit curious, you can read more about me and my experience here.
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R [Client]
"I hadn't realised how heavy the guilt of not being good enough was. I feel lighter, clearer"
S [Client]
" You seem to have 'got me' in a matter of minutes. Its taken me my whole lifetime"
D [Client]
“I've realised its possible to trust myself and stop over-thinking everything"
P [Client]
" I can't believe I waited so long to get started, I felt like things had changed after one session"
R [Client]
"Being in Nature made the impossible, possible for me...It never felt like there were spaces for men like me...until I came to the woods"
H [Client]
"Where else can you climb trees, listen to the birds and also sort your head out, thanks JK for letting me find my wild again. ... Being a carer and a dad is something I cherish but its not been easy for me. "
Questions, Questions
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I’m not sure if now is the right time for coaching – I’m too busy and overwhelmed.
Remember that overused but very true saying “the best time to plant a tree was yesterday. The second-best time is now?” The same goes for your wellbeing. You’ll know deep down when the right time is, and that right time could be now.
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How do I know whether I need coaching or therapy?
Therapy is more regular and is usually longer term, and is a space to talk. Coaching is more focused on solutions and change instead of talking over your problems and figuring things out. Coaching helps you to learn for yourself whereas therapy is carried out by someone who is qualified to use certain psychological therapies such as CBT. If you aren’t sure, get in touch. I'll explain the differences in relation to your circumstances, and a discovery call is the best place to chat this through to ensure you are in the right place.
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I just want to get started, do I have to book in a discovery call?
It’s great that you are eager to get started. A discovery call is a really integral part of getting started. It ensures that we are a great fit to work together, allows you to ask any question and clarifies that the package approach will be best suited to your needs.
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What if I need to change a session time later – can’t I just book one session for now?
To keep the momentum it's good to book all sessions at once but you can change the date and time of the sessions later if you need to. Things pop up, life happens. You’ll get a booking link to help you so you don’t even have to ask to rearrange.
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Is this just for white, straight MIDDLE-CLASS men?
Glad you asked. Absolutely not! I want to see more men in the global majority taking up space as leaders and pioneers of a kinder, happier world. I work with a range of AMAZING GUYS with men in relationships with men, men separated, single or cohabiting as well as those who self-identify as male or non-binary. From working class to wealthy upbringings, self-made-wealth to humble-earners. Research shows that certain demographics are less likely to access nature, and that pisses me off. I want to help change that, will you help me be part of that change?
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Do I have to go to the woods in the depths of winter?
During winter we don't weather the wild at the Little Seed Field, from December to March I can meet you in a public place for walks and talks, or online.
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What if the weather is bad?
There’s a shelter in the woods we can go in if it rains unexpectedly, and I always do a weather check the day before our session. If we need to cancel due to storms or extreme weather, we’ll rearrange the session or you can have it online.
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I live far away from Yorkshire but like the sound of this approach, what are my options?
Beyond the 3, 6 or 8 session package we also offer immersive session packages lasting a half day or longer - where people can stay over onsite. As well as group retreats. I also have limited online session spaces too. Book a discovery call and I can help you decide the best-fit approach.
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